Change of heart

So as you may know Ive started going to a new ob/gyn. Heres my (long) story about the loooong 10 weeks so far.

To recap:  I set up 2 consults before I got pregnant(from 2 of the 3 practices in Winchester). The first consult was with Dr.Reese, Ryon and I both loved her. I found out I was pregnant that morning so I thought it was a sign thats where I should be. She had a plan for the next several weeks so I thought she was willing to have me as a patient, however I would still have to go to another practice to see Dr.McCoy for my ultrasounds(the only specialist in the area). I ended up cancelling the other consult appointment. The next few days I had to drive back and forth to Winchester to the lab to have my blood drawn until the quant was high enough for an ultrasound...or until it was a "viable pregnancy". So I went back to Dr.Reese's office for my ultrasound at 6wks 2days to confirm there was a baaaby.

Of course the bean was alive and well and growing growing growing. YAY, things were moving along just as they should...I set up my appointment with the nurse and an appointment for the end of September to see Dr.Reese. The nurse was going to call me later that day to tell me when to go to Dr.McCoy(which would of course be before my next appointment w/Dr.Reese).

Later that day I got a call from the nurse to confirm that I didnt want to go to UVA, which they said would be the smartest idea. LOL I had to laugh because they just dont know anything about ACD. Nothing during the pregnancy would be considered high risk so why would I travel 3.5hrs to get the same info? No thanks. Plus I dont need anymore stress! So then she called back again and said they were transfering all care to Dr.McCoy. I was at work so I didnt want to ask questions, she just said someone from her office would be be calling to set up an appointment. As hard as I tried not to cry the tears wouldnt stop rolling. I was sooo upset the one thing I thought I could control I couldnt! Everything I wanted in a doctor I felt like I wasnt going to get at the new practice. I thought I'd most likely see Dr.McCoy a few times and just be thrown around all the other doctors(theres like 8 or 9) and I wouldnt get that personal experience that I really wanted from my new doctor. I didnt want to be just another number.

I got a call the next day to set up orientation and a meeting with the nurse. What in the world would you need to go to orientation for?? Especially since I JUST had a baby...I know what the deal is. I called to try and explain that I didnt need to go but they thought otherwise. I was already bitter and this just made it worse. I had such a bad taste in my mouth when I went to the orientation. (Keep in mind the doctor is 45 minutes away and I have no sick time) Basically we just sat in the back part of the lobby with other new prenatal patients and went over the packet(whats ok to take and all the other duh's). Missing work for this? Not ok. Then I had to go back the next day to meet with the nurse. Well the next day was lots of confusion. I was super emotional that morning...and still bitter. We got to talking with the nurse's nurse about our situation(they didnt have all the paperwork n such so she was trying to get at why Dr. Reese sent me there) and everyone was confused. Of course we talked about Bella and how its stupid they transferred me. I was just crying saying I only wanted to come there for my ultrasounds but Dr. Reese thought I needed to be there for all appointments. So they said "its up to you who you go see...so were not going to go over family history n do all the tests if you want to see her". So they took me upstairs to set up a consult with Dr.McCoy for the following week. Her secretary told me to call Dr Reese and get everything figured out and if she didnt want to see me then call her back and theyd change it to a prenatal work up(draw blood, pap smear, family history...all the fun stuff)

Well after leaving there..another wasted trip, I was so anxious, I knew what they were going to say so I didnt want to call and sound like a crying fool. After stressing I finally called and talked to the nurse..."it says here if you conceive, you need to go to a perinatologist...but she said you can come back to her for your gyn care after if you want". Thanks but no thanks. So its done....there is no back and forth anymore, it is what it is!

The appointment this week went way better than I anticipated. I had been having lots of anxiety but I think ill be ok now.

First we watched the CVS/amnio video from 1950..and the nurse informed me that after I have an ultrasound id meet with Dr.McCoy and then come back another day for my checkup...oooooh no, not again!! We informed her that the secretary said theyd do it all in the same appointment. So she said shed see what she could do and took us in a bigger, nicer room to have and ultrasound to make sure baby is still ok and check the heartbeat. It was so amazing to see the little bean. I teared up a little :) He/She even jumped a bit and made us chuckle. The tech said "isnt it crazy how much they move and you cant even feel it" and of course I replied by telling her I felt some flutters already! Now sure, in a normal situation you probably wouldnt be able to feel anything that early, but ive got a special angel who knows I need reassurance! Of course I didnt say that I just let her think I was crazy. LoL

So after a little while Dr.McCoy came in and we talked for quite a while. I must say I was soo wrong about her. Note: dont judge based on other peoples experiences! They didnt say she was terrible, just stern and not what I was looking for. I really like her a lot based on our meeting tho. Shes dealt with death a lot and she knows her stuff...but was also sympathetic. Shes not the robot I imagined. :) lol She also informed me that I wouldnt have to go to the other doctors and when I get to 39 weeks we could talk about inducing if I really wanted her to deliver. Whew! Also, she was real and finally someone who got it. She said she couldnt do anything anyone else couldnt do except for high tech ultrasound but she understood where Dr. Reese was coming from not knowing anything about it. Of course she didnt either but she wasnt afraid about it and sounded interested. She wanted all the info we had..I of course brought a folder with lots of info and we got to talking about genetics and such and the study at Baylor.

When we were finished she had her nurse call Dr. Sen at Baylor to find out exactly what we needed to do/send. She sent me downstairs to go over history and all the fun tests. Then back upstairs to the lab where myself annnd Ryon had our blood drawn. They sent the blood samples for us and the consent forms. So its finally done!

We were there for 3 hours! Wowza.

Got an email from Dr. Sen saying they got our blood samples the following day and now theyre just waiting on Bella's DNA from UVA(which theyll be sending most likely on Tuesday) He said once they get that theyll start sequencing the FoxF1 gene. We should have results within a few weeks so ill be sure to post an update about that!

So relieved to finally have everything sent(or ready to be sent) to Baylor...and to finally have a doctor for this pregnancy!

Feeling good :)

(weeeelll not physically, but mentally things are in order)

Looking back I know I made a moutain out of an ant hill...but im ok with that! Haha

On another positive note Hawaii is just 44 days away!!

1 comment:

  1. hi you dont know me but i went to school with ryan and im truly sorry for your loss and i hope everything goes well with this new baby sincerely tamma